Embracing That True Change Comes Over Time

Instant transformations are rare, especially with chronic conditions like fibroids. Understanding that progress may be gradual helps you maintain motivation. Celebrate small victories and be gentle with yourself when progress feels slow. Remember, sustainable change is built over months, even years, not days.

Moving from “Fix Me” Mentality to Healing Oneself

Relying solely on external solutions can disempower you. Healing starts with taking ownership, listening to your body, learning what it needs, and actively participating in your journey. This mindset empowers you to make better choices and develop a deeper connection with your health.

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From All-or-Nothing Thinking to Consistent Imperfection

Perfectionism can sabotage progress. It’s unrealistic to expect flawless adherence to every health habit all the time. Instead, aim for consistent imperfection, doing your best most of the time, forgiving yourself when you slip up, and continuing forward. This approach reduces stress and keeps you engaged in your healing process.

Shifting Focus from Symptoms to Systems

Focusing solely on symptom relief overlooks the underlying causes of fibroids. Long-term healing requires a holistic approach that addresses body systems such as, hormonal balance, inflammation, digestion, and stress response. By understanding and supporting your entire system, you move beyond temporary fixes toward meaningful, deep healing.

Commitment and Support Are Key

Navigating natural healing for fibroids is a long-term investment of your time, energy, and resources. It’s not something to tackle alone or without adequate knowledge. These five mindset shifts provides a foundation for sustainable progress, but remember, medical guidance also play a vital role. Commit wholeheartedly, approach your healing journey with compassion and patience, and embrace the process as a transformative experience. Your health is worth it.

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These aren’t just rhetorical questions.
They were voiced by a woman who was frustrated, disillusioned, and at her breaking point.

She’d done everything “right.” She’d gone to her GP, followed the advice, asked the questions, but still felt worse and was none the wiser.
And now, to get the kind of care she really wanted, care that looked at the full picture, she felt like she had to pay through the nose for it.

For many women, this is not just a one-off.
It’s the norm. The frustration is real. Pain is common.

And here’s why…

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The Medical System Isn’t Broken. It Was Built This Way.

Let’s call it what it is: the medical model is excellent at crisis care; stopping a heart attack, setting broken bones, and managing symptoms in emergencies.

You cannot fault them. Point blank.

But when it comes to chronic, lifestyle issues, invisible conditions like Endo or PCOS, or anything related to hormones, fatigue, mood, digestion, pain, or energy…

You’ll be lucky if you get more than 7 minutes with a doctor who half-listens then sends you home with either a prescription or a dismissal:
“You’re just getting older.”
“Your labs look normal.”
“It’s in your head.”

Or in my case “Go and buy some Voltarol.”

I have not been to a doctors office since.

The frustration builds and builds…

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Holistic Care Offers Something Different

Now enter holistic care.

It's not a Band-Aid, nor a pill; but a deep exploration into your body, your environment, unresolved trauma, gut health, energy levels, food, emotions and much more.

As a Holistic health coach and womb strategist.…I am the one asking:

• What happened before the symptoms started?

• What’s your daily rhythm like?

• What’s going on in your relationships?

• How does your body feel after you eat, move, cry, rest?

I trained and invested heavily and extensively to see the full picture, not just your lab results.
All that investigation takes time, attention, presence, expertise and pattern recognition. And often, I use tools the mainstream medical system doesn’t [and would not] even acknowledge.

“But Why Do I Have to Pay for It?”

Let’s get real here: the current system does not cover holistic care because it was never designed to.

Let me repeat that…

It was not designed to include holistic care!

Insurance companies operate on standardised protocols, diagnostics, and fast solutions, not customised, root-cause healing. [Healing vs. treatment]

If that was the case, my parents would be fully healed once they came out of hospital. But, instead, they were discharged barely functional, leaving the family to do the bulk of the care.

Further, if holistic care were covered, it would likely be so limited, boxed-in, and regulated that the very essence of what makes it powerful…esp. in my ability to be flexible and provide truly personalised protocols, would be stripped away.

So yes, like many practitioners, I operate privately. I don’t have much choice.
Not because I want to keep people out, but because I refuse to water what I do, down.

I don't get funding from pharmaceutical companies.
I don't have government subsidies.
I don't sell prescriptions.

And I certainly won’t be receiving any awards or accolades any time soon!

I invest in advanced trainings, certifications, testing equipment, and hours of one-to-one guidance because I believe you are worth more than 7 rushed minutes and a dismissal.

But What About the Money Honey?

This is where it gets sensitive.

Considering how much money touches every aspect of our lives, you’d think it would get talked about more? Nope! But that is another subject for another time.

Many people have money blocks around investing in their health.
They feel guilt, fear, or even shame for spending money on themselves, especially when the system has conditioned them to believe:

• “Health services should be free.”

• “You're selfish for spending on your own wellbeing.”

• “If it's not covered, it's not real.”

One of the biggest reasons to poo poo what holistic practitioners do is because…wait for it… it's not backed by ‘science’ or placebo controlled clinical studies.

{That’s B.S., but like money, that’s another story for another day!]

But here’s the thing…healing is an investment.
No matter what, you will pay.

The question is: will you pay now or later? And what will you pay with? Your body when issues get chronic, energy wasted guessing, or money spent on things that don’t work? There will always be a cost regardless.

And if money is tight (which is very real for many), you still deserve access. That’s why there are so many flexible options: group programs, sliding scales, digital tools, payment plans, or even free resources that go far beyond what your GP offers.

The System Won’t Change Unless We Do

We are not just healing our bodies.
We are unlearning a system that told us to put all our faith in doctors.

And that takes courage.

Choosing holistic care is more than a personal decision, it’s a quiet rebellion.
It says: “I refuse to accept that feeling miserable is normal.”

It’s a shift from helplessness to empowerment.

And for every woman who has felt dismissed, gaslit, and let down by the system, know this: you are not crazy, lazy, or being overly dramatic.
You are wise for questioning.
You are brave for seeking more.
You are powerful for choosing healing, even when it feels hard.

You deserve to feel good. Not just “not sick.” But good. Alive. Energised.

And no system, medical or otherwise should be able to take that away from you.

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Historically, the medical system was designed by men for men, with little regard for the nuanced needs of others. Even today, despite advances in science and technology, this legacy persists. Women, particularly those of African descent, often find themselves subjected to medical interventions that do not honour their unique biological makeup. The approach to healing must therefore be tailored, considering the intricate biochemical and physiological variations that exist within different populations.

The Importance of a Tailored Healing Approach

Research shows that there is a significant difference in the biochemistry of people with higher levels of eumelanin (found predominantly in people of African descent) versus those with higher levels of pheomelanin. These differences extend beyond pigmentation and influence aspects such as nutritional needs, metabolism, and even spiritual inclination. Understanding these distinctions is crucial for developing more effective and personalised healing approaches.

For instance, eumelanin-dominant individuals may have different nutritional requirements due to their body’s ability to absorb and process certain vitamins and minerals differently. Yet, mainstream dietary recommendations and treatment protocols rarely take this into account. A diet rich in specific minerals and antioxidants could support optimal health, yet medical professionals seldom discuss this in relation to biochemical individuality.

Spirituality and the Disconnection from Self

An often-overlooked aspect of healing is spirituality. Historically, eumelanin rich people tend to exhibit strong spiritual inclinations, as seen in the number of churches and spiritual communities led by and composed of these individuals. Spirituality, in this sense, is an intrinsic quality rather than a learned behavior. However, modern systems often encourage individuals to look outside themselves for healing and guidance rather than cultivating the innate wisdom they possess naturally.

This separation from self, whether through medical interventions, societal conditioning, or religious dogma, has profound implications. Just as a woman’s womb is often dismissed as a mere disposable organ rather than a centre of creation, the spiritual connection to self is similarly disregarded. When individuals are encouraged to disconnect from their natural essence, it results in a disempowered state, which, unbeknownst to them, may lead to emotional and physical ailments.

The Role of Trauma and Toxicity

The womb, in particular, is a site where unprocessed emotions, past experiences, and even ancestral memories reside. When these emotions remain unresolved, they manifest as fibroids, cysts, and other gynaecological issues. Yet, mainstream medicine rarely acknowledges this connection. Instead, surgical interventions are recommended without addressing the root cause of dysfunction.

Additionally, eumelanin has the ability to bind to heavy metals, which has both protective and harmful implications. On one hand, this binding ability helps capture harmful metals and reduce oxidative stress. However, excessive heavy metal accumulation can contribute to toxicity, leading to cellular damage and increased oxidative stress. The medical system fails to address the role of detoxification in healing, despite the clear impact of environmental toxins on health.

Moving Towards Holistic Healing

To truly support health and well-being, we must acknowledge and embrace biochemical differences rather than ignore them. Healing must be approached holistically, integrating spiritual, emotional, and biochemical aspects rather than merely suppressing symptoms. Nutrition, mental well-being, spiritual alignment, and detoxification are all crucial components of this approach.

Recognising the wisdom inherent within the body, whether in the womb, in melanin, or in spirituality, allows for a more profound and lasting healing process. Rather than viewing medical professionals as the ultimate authority, individuals should be empowered to reclaim sovereignty over their health, understanding that true healing comes from within.

Conclusion

The medical field has its place, but it is not the ultimate answer to all health issues. Understanding biochemical individuality, particularly the unique properties of eumelanin-rich individuals, provides a foundation for more effective and meaningful healing. As we move forward, it is imperative to shift from a reductionist model of medicine to one that truly acknowledges the interplay of body, mind, and spirit.

By incorporating nutrient-rich foods into your diet, you can experience a significant boost in energy and mood. A well-balanced diet can help mitigate the effects of hormonal fluctuations, reducing the likelihood of depression, mood swings, acne, and weight gain.

• Spirulina: This blue-green algae is packed with magnesium, calcium, and potassium, making it a potent hormone-balancing agent. It can help reduce symptoms like mood problems, cramps, and breast tenderness, and even alleviate blood sugar problems.

• Cod Liver Oil: This ancient remedy is back in vogue, and for good reason. Rich in Vitamin A and omega-3s, cod liver oil can help address mood problems, inflammation, and fluid balance. Plus, it can even improve potency.

• Vitex: Also known as Chaste Tree Berry, Vitex is a powerful medicinal herb that can help regulate progesterone levels. It's a natural remedy for PMS symptoms like depressed mood, irritability, and fatigue.

• Bee Pollen: This traditional Chinese medicine staple is a complete food that's rich in proteins, folic acid, and vitamin B. It can help balance hormones, improve mood, and stabilize weight.

• Avocado: These creamy fruits are a great source of healthy fats that are essential for hormone synthesis. They can help your skin release and circulate hormones, promoting overall health.

• Salmon: This fatty fish is a brain and heart health superstar, and its omega-3s can also help balance hormones. Its anti-inflammatory properties can even combat skin irritations like eczema and acne.

By incorporating these hormone-balancing foods into your diet, you can say goodbye to mood swings and other hormonal imbalance symptoms. Give them a try and experience the amazing results for yourself!

If this resonated, here are three powerful articles to explore next:

• Detox into Your Destiny

• The Power of Purging: How Clearing Physical Clutter Can Heal Emotional Wounds

• The Power of Healing: Fibroid Resolution Beyond The Conventional

This space is where I teach the real truths about fibroids, womb health, and healing: the things women are never told. Stay connected as I continue to share the frameworks, insights, and root‑cause teachings that shape my work.

Disclaimer: The information provided in this article is for educational purposes only and is not intended to be a substitute for professional medical advice or treatment. It is not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any disease. Always consult with a qualified medical professional before making any changes to your diet or supplement routine

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Have you ever bought something you thought you liked, only to change your mind once it's home?

It's a common scenario. We buy impulsively or because we believe we'll need it later, only for those items to gather dust or become glorified clothes hangers. Go on, check your cupboard for juicers, smoothie makers, bread machines and other large items gathering dust.

Around 11 years ago, I had to vacate my one-bedroom flat in a hurry, which meant putting my belongings into storage temporarily. That temporarily turned into 11 years, during which I continued paying to store items I no longer needed. It wasn't until the end of March that I decided to confront this monthly cost.

The realisation of this hit hard – I was wasting money on stuff I no longer wanted or needed. Sorting through those neatly boxed items, I found little attachment to any of it. Even cherished photographs didn't escape the purge. It dawned on me how easily we accumulate things, cluttering our lives with belongings we hang on to because we’ve grown attached to them.

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Over the years, I've become more aware of the constant media barrage urging us to spend. But this awareness extended beyond material possessions. While working in health stores many years back, I observed shoppers' behaviour, realising the excessiveness in our consumption habits. It was a pivotal moment, the beginning of my journey to declutter not just my physical space but my mind and emotions too.

Unbeknown to me, holding onto physical belongings mirrored my emotional clutter. As life threw many challenges my way, I found myself drowning in emotional turmoil, unknowingly sabotaging my own progress. Despite outward appearances, I felt like an imposter, struggling to reconcile my public persona with my internal struggles.

The emotional weight I carried impacted every aspect of my life, hindering my business endeavours and leaving me feeling like a fraud. It was as if I were a sink clogged with unresolved emotions, draining my energy and stifling my potential.

Through confronting the physical clutter, I began addressing the deeper layers of emotional baggage, clearing out toxicity from both my surroundings and my psyche. It's an ongoing process, but with each item released, I feel lighter, freer, and more aligned with my true self.

You might ask, what do I mean by my true self?

Well, there were several Valerie's, you see. There was the Valerie for work, polished and professional, and then there was the Valerie for friends, outgoing and fun-loving. But the real Valerie, the one with all the messy emotions and vulnerabilities, was reserved for those closest to me.

But hiding in the shadows was another Valerie. This Valerie felt powerful, capable of anything she set her mind to. Yet, she was suffocated beneath layers of 'stuff'. Covered in clutter, all she could do was whimper, stifled by the weight of it all. Sometimes, I'd catch glimpses of her, but then I'd silence her with dark chocolate rice cakes, burying her deeper because letting her out was too frightening. What if no one liked her?

Eventually, my mental state deteriorated to a point where I had no choice but to confront it. It felt like a cacophony of voices in my head, and I feared I was losing my grip on reality.

So, I dug deep and reached out to the universe for help and guidance. Whatever this 'stuff' was, it had to go.

I started my journey of detoxing and clearing out the emotional and mental clutter, a process that spanned three years. It was not easy, I had to dive deeper and deeper to uncover the true essence of who I was, beyond the perceptions others had imposed upon me.

Layer by layer, I let go of the accumulated mental and emotional baggage that had weighed me down for years, including generation trauma, that kept me trapped in patterns of behaviour I desperately wanted to break free from. It was a time of frustration, anguish, and self-loathing.

But now, I can proudly say that I've cleared out a significant amount of gunk. Again, while it's an ongoing process, the journey has been enlightening. What I cherish most is the spiritual growth I've experienced (not religious growth), and the heightened intuition that now guides me with crystal clear clarity.

My journey of confronting the physical clutter I had in storage for far too long, led me to a profound realisation of the emotional and mental clutter that had been holding me back for years. Through years of diligent detoxing and introspection, I shed layers of accumulated ‘stuff’, freeing myself from patterns of behaviour that held me back.

Now, I stand lighter, clearer, and more aligned with my true self than ever before. Yes, it's been a tough journey, but the highlight is my spiritual growth and a heightened intuition that guides me in all aspects of my life.

If you resonate with my experience, I encourage you to take action and begin your own journey of clearing out toxic waste in your lives. Whether it's physical clutter, emotional baggage, or mental barriers, know that liberation awaits on the other side of letting go. Trust in the process, and allow yourself to unfold into the best version of yourself.

If this resonated, here are three powerful articles to explore next:

• Unlock the Power of Hormone-Balancing Foods

• Why Holistic Healing Feels Out of Reach

• 5 Mindset Shifts for Long-Term Healing from Fibroids

This space is where I teach the real truths about fibroids, womb health, and healing: the things women are never told. Stay connected as I continue to share the frameworks, insights, and root‑cause teachings that shape my work.