The Power of Purging: How Clearing Physical Clutter Can Heal Emotional Wounds
My Personal Story of How I Shed Emotional Baggage and Found My True Self
Have you ever bought something you thought you liked, only to change your mind once it's home?
It's a common scenario. We buy impulsively or because we believe we'll need it later, only for those items to gather dust or become glorified clothes hangers. Go on, check your cupboard for juicers, smoothie makers, bread machines and other large items gathering dust.
Around 11 years ago, I had to vacate my one-bedroom flat in a hurry, which meant putting my belongings into storage temporarily. That temporarily turned into 11 years, during which I continued paying to store items I no longer needed. It wasn't until the end of March that I decided to confront this monthly cost.
The realisation of this hit hard – I was wasting money on stuff I no longer wanted or needed. Sorting through those neatly boxed items, I found little attachment to any of it. Even cherished photographs didn't escape the purge. It dawned on me how easily we accumulate things, cluttering our lives with belongings we hang on to because we’ve grown attached to them.
Over the years, I've become more aware of the constant media barrage urging us to spend. But this awareness extended beyond material possessions. While working in health stores many years back, I observed shoppers' behaviour, realising the excessiveness in our consumption habits. It was a pivotal moment, the beginning of my journey to declutter not just my physical space but my mind and emotions too.
Unbeknown to me, holding onto physical belongings mirrored my emotional clutter. As life threw many challenges my way, I found myself drowning in emotional turmoil, unknowingly sabotaging my own progress. Despite outward appearances, I felt like an imposter, struggling to reconcile my public persona with my internal struggles.
The emotional weight I carried impacted every aspect of my life, hindering my business endeavours and leaving me feeling like a fraud. It was as if I were a sink clogged with unresolved emotions, draining my energy and stifling my potential.
Through confronting the physical clutter, I began addressing the deeper layers of emotional baggage, clearing out toxicity from both my surroundings and my psyche. It's an ongoing process, but with each item released, I feel lighter, freer, and more aligned with my true self.
You might ask, what do I mean by my true self?
Well, there were several Valerie's, you see. There was the Valerie for work, polished and professional, and then there was the Valerie for friends, outgoing and fun-loving. But the real Valerie, the one with all the messy emotions and vulnerabilities, was reserved for those closest to me.
But hiding in the shadows was another Valerie. This Valerie felt powerful, capable of anything she set her mind to. Yet, she was suffocated beneath layers of 'stuff'. Covered in clutter, all she could do was whimper, stifled by the weight of it all. Sometimes, I'd catch glimpses of her, but then I'd silence her with dark chocolate rice cakes, burying her deeper because letting her out was too frightening. What if no one liked her?
Eventually, my mental state deteriorated to a point where I had no choice but to confront it. It felt like a cacophony of voices in my head, and I feared I was losing my grip on reality.
So, I dug deep and reached out to the universe for help and guidance. Whatever this 'stuff' was, it had to go.
I started my journey of detoxing and clearing out the emotional and mental clutter, a process that spanned three years. It was not easy, I had to dive deeper and deeper to uncover the true essence of who I was, beyond the perceptions others had imposed upon me.
Layer by layer, I let go of the accumulated mental and emotional baggage that had weighed me down for years, including generation trauma, that kept me trapped in patterns of behaviour I desperately wanted to break free from. It was a time of frustration, anguish, and self-loathing.
But now, I can proudly say that I've cleared out a significant amount of gunk. Again, while it's an ongoing process, the journey has been enlightening. What I cherish most is the spiritual growth I've experienced (not religious growth), and the heightened intuition that now guides me with crystal clear clarity.
My journey of confronting the physical clutter I had in storage for far too long, led me to a profound realisation of the emotional and mental clutter that had been holding me back for years. Through years of diligent detoxing and introspection, I shed layers of accumulated ‘stuff’, freeing myself from patterns of behaviour that held me back.
Now, I stand lighter, clearer, and more aligned with my true self than ever before. Yes, it's been a tough journey, but the highlight is my spiritual growth and a heightened intuition that guides me in all aspects of my life.
If you resonate with my experience, I encourage you to take action and begin your own journey of clearing out toxic waste in your lives. Whether it's physical clutter, emotional baggage, or mental barriers, know that liberation awaits on the other side of letting go. Trust in the process, and allow yourself to unfold into the best version of yourself.
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