Let’s be honest: if the advice women have been given about fibroids actually worked, we wouldn’t be having this conversation. Let me guess…, you’ve tried castor oil packs, eliminating coffee, sugar and alcohol. You ate only salads, switched to a plant based diet or you went raw vegan. Or you invested thousands on ebooks, coaches, teas and herbal remedies, but none of it shrank your fibroids right?
Like many women, you did this perhaps because you wanted to avoid surgery, or you simply wanted a holistic approach to dealing with fibroids.
But what if I told you, the reason none of that worked, was not because you were doing anything wrong, but because…you were trying to fix a physical problem that has a much deeper origin.
Thing is, what most women do is that they focus on controlling symptoms, shrinking the fibroid, balancing hormones, calming down inflammation - which overall, are very good things to do, but what if I was to tell you that fibroids don’t necessarily start in the womb…they just end up there.
Stick with me.
By the time a fibroid shows up, your body has already spent years trying to process years of built up stress, emotional overload, poor elimination, and a life that’s been running on autopilot.
It’s like mopping up a flooded floor without ever turning off the tap. You can detox all day long, but if your nervous system is stuck in survival mode, your gut is sluggish, your emotions are unreleased, and your choices are driven by guilt or obligation, your body will keep producing conditions that match that state.
And, unfortunately for us women, that target is our womb.
Fibroids Don’t Just Appear out of Nowhere
They grow in the exact place where you hold your power, creativity, intuition, and emotions. That is not accidental.
And when that part of you is overloaded, unheard, or pushed aside, your body will respond.
Fibroids grow when your body is carrying things you were never meant to carry… emotionally, mentally, physically and spiritually.
In this context, we have to think deeper than stress. What I am talking about is the pressure to keep going when you’re completely exhausted. The unspoken grief you’ve had to swallow. The resentment that simmers under your skin because your needs are always put on the back burner, and the years of saying yes when you really wanted to say no but felt like a bitch if you didn’t.
Sister, when I tell you it all adds up - it really does. I lived in this scenario for many years. All that invisible weight builds up and places a massive burden on your physical body. And being one of the most emotionally intelligent parts of your body, your womb is not going to just forget.
You’ve Been Conditioned to Ignore the Signs
As women, most of us have one thing in common: we’ve been taught to tolerate discomfort.
Heavy bleeding? “Oh that's just part of being a woman.”
Painful sex? “Maybe try to relax, take deep breaths or try a lubricant.”
Bloating, exhaustion, back pain? “You’re probably just tired.” Or in my case… “Go and buy some Voltarol” (for the back pain I was experiencing).
So you keep pushing through. You keep doing, doing, doing or you keep doing what the doctors tells you is best, but deep down, something still doesn’t feel right, but you just can’t put your finger on it.
What if I told you that fibroids are more than just a health issue?
What if I told you fibroids are a message?
A message that something in your life is not being honoured. That you’ve been disconnected from your body and from what it actually needs. A disconnection that requires much more than supplementation, surgery, or a plant based meal plan.
Your Body is Always Working For You
Let me say something you might have trouble believing: your body is brilliant and intelligently made.
If that is the case Valerie, then why do I have fibroids? You might ask.
Research will not directly tell you this because it's not something you can measure in a petri dish. Fibroids are a protective response. They show up when your body is trying to keep you safe in a world that keeps asking you to abandon yourself.
Maybe you've swallowed your emotions for years. Maybe you’ve stayed in survival mode so long you forgot what feeling good even feels like. Perhaps your body has been giving you hints all along but now it’s screaming at you! “Please hear me!”
The medical system will tell you to treat the fibroid or remove your womb, silencing her voice altogether. What I am asking you to do is look at why they are there in the first place.
Because behind every fibroid is a story your body is holding onto:
A build-up of emotional tension you were never taught how to release.
A lifestyle that’s drained your energy and overloaded your system.
Foods that numb your body’s signals instead of make them clear for you to hear.
Habits that keep you functioning but not thriving.
This is part of the internal environment where fibroids grow and flourish. What I’ve learned over the years (to my detriment) is that the more you ignore your womb's cries for help, the more struggle and internal pain (mental and emotional) you get.
So What Does Healing Really Take?
I constantly get asked “How long will this take?” Let me be clear, dealing with fibroids is not linear - I say this all the time. It's a phased approach that requires in depth investigation:
That includes:
Getting clear on the deeper reasons your body is in this state.
Removing what’s making it harder to heal, not just physically, but emotionally too.
Rebuilding your body with foods that bring it back to life.
Restoring the parts of you that were left behind, your true voice; unapologetic and unafraid.
So whilst you need all the good stuff like diet, exercise and herbs etc., the real healing work is getting into the stuff you can’t see, and that requires asking questions that will get to the heart of the problem. This is what will make all the difference. If there is one thing I have learned in this journey is that you cannot heal from the same place that created the fibroids. Because, if you don’t address the internal environment that created them in the first place, they will return.
The fact is, you don’t have to live with fibroids no matter how you choose to deal with them. But if you choose the natural healing route, the answer won’t be found in more band-aid solutions.
It starts when you stop looking out there and start looking within for answers. That’s where the real work begins.
If this resonated, here are three powerful articles to explore next:
• Why Fibroids Keep Coming Back
• The 11 Stages of Disease Most Doctors Never Explain
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