They Said My Womb Wasn't Healed

They were wrong

I usually keep my personal life... well, personal. I’m a private womb-man by nature. I don’t like airing any dirty laundry in public. But I’ve realised it is important for you to know how I got here and, more importantly, why I do what I do.

I’m sharing this today because of an experience that acted as a mirror I wasn’t ready to look into.

I was part of a health and wellbeing group, a space that, on the surface, should have been supportive. I ended up leaving because the energy simply didn’t align with mine, but before I left, something happened. I responded to a post about a young African lady marrying a wealthy, much older man. My response focused on the legacy aspect, speculating about prenups and the importance of her not spending unwisely so she could build long-term wealth.

Looking back, I could have said what I said differently. Even though I corrected myself in the thread, the backlash was deep. Women began checking out my profile and coming back with a phrase that stopped me in my tracks: “Her womb ain’t healed.”

That stung.

I mean…

Really stung.

It was a cold, hard reminder that I still have work to do.

The Myth of the Healed Destination

When you do this kind of work, people expect you to have your life wrapped up in a neat little bow. They think healing is a destination, a place called Nirvana where you check in and never leave.

If only!

Healing is a process of unlearning layers upon layers of conditioning passed down through generations. It means recognising the subconscious behaviours and limiting beliefs, especially around money and self-worth, and addressing them with the same seriousness the same way you would deal with a poor diet.

Learning to remain poised when I would normally react takes a tremendous amount of inner strength. Honestly, I probably burn a thousand calories just reminding myself to keep my cool! It just goes to show how important nutrition is; you need the literal energy to maintain your peace! This experience taught me that I’ll never be done healing. It is a lifetime commitment.

The Question I Always Get

So, have you got rid of your fibroids?

No, I haven’t.

There is nothing I’d love more. But I’ve had two surgeries, and not all of my fibroids were removed, which, frankly, annoyed the hell out of me. They were discovered, not diagnosed, in my thirties. Which means I was carrying them for years before that. We’re talking about something that developed over two to three decades. How can I realistically expect to undo that in a few months? Come on now… let’s be real. That said, my focus shifted from fighting my fibroids to something far more interesting.

Beyond the Bleeding

After my second surgery, I made a pact with my body. I told her to send a message to my fibroids: You can stay, but only if we work together. No more excessive bleeding. That’s over.

That was my focus. Stop the haemorrhaging. Live my life.

But what started as a mission to stop heavy bleeding became something else entirely - a deep, cellular purge that got louder before it got quieter. The inner noise intensified. I thought I was losing my mind. But on the other side of that cleansing, I found her. The woman, buried under years of low self-worth and self-loathing.

For years I carried a dark cloud over my head, the cartoon kind that follows you everywhere. I grew up believing I was less than. I lived almost entirely in my masculine energy: in my attitude, my posture, the invisible armour I wore without even knowing it. My feminine side was screaming to be let out. I ignored her for most of my life. The truth is, I didn’t even know what being feminine meant.

What This Was Really About

We are often told that changing our diet or taking a few herbs is enough. It isn’t.

So much has been taken from us: identity, culture, spirituality, language, our very names. And yet here we are, trying to heal while still measuring ourselves against Western standards of health and beauty, whilst living in a toxic soup of negativity and overt oppression. That will never work. It’s why so many of our sisters end up losing their wombs entirely: because they are trying to fix a spiritual wound with physical solutions.

Real healing starts with clearing the body so the mind can think straight. It means reconnecting with what you already carry: the knowledge that lives in your cells, older than anything a clinic can offer you.

Does This Mean Natural Healing Doesn’t Work?

No.

Personally, I no longer wanted to continue fighting with my fibroids, and my ultrasound shows some were calcified.

What this journey showed me, and what I can 100% guarantee - is that dealing with fibroids, for many women will take more than switching to a plant based diet, herbal teas, yoni steams, and castor oil packs.

If your body made them, then it is possible your body can break them down, but its going to require a tailored, systematic approach, rather then just throwing random 'stuff’ at them. Fibroids are the results of a body that has been struggling for years, and now needs some serious TLC, so the approach you take must be bespoke to what is actually taking place. That will be your baseline from which you track progress.

This is what you are probably dealing with:

→ Years of oestrogen dominance

→ Impaired Liver detoxification

→ Chronic inflammation

→ Toxin Exposure

→ Gut dysfunction

When you see it like this, its very clear why none of your previous approaches worked. You didn’t do anything wrong. No one told you what is really going on.

The Journey Continues

So no, I ain’t healed in the way the world defines it. But I am so much further along the path.

What began as a mission to stop bleeding became a fight to find myself. To reclaim my femininity. To become the woman who doesn’t shrink. That’s why I do this work. In my world, fibroids are never just a medical condition. They are a doorway. And I intend to walk through mine, fully, unapologetically, and without waiting until I’m perfect to say so.

If this resonates, you are in the right place.

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Disclaimer

This space is where I teach the real truths about fibroids, womb health, and healing: the things women are never told. Stay connected as I continue to share the frameworks, insights, and root‑cause teachings that shape my work.

This article is for informational and educational purposes only. It is not intended to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have read in this article.

I am not a medical professional, and the information shared here is based on personal experiences, two decades of knowledge on working on myself, the many brilliant teachers who have taught me everything I know; but most of all and the most important is the insights from my clients. Always consult with a healthcare professional before making any changes to your health regimen or starting a new treatment plan.

Your health and well-being are unique to you, and it’s important to take a tailored approach under the guidance of a qualified expert.