You can be doing all the right things physically; herbs, detoxes, yoni steams, eating clean…yet still, your fibroids keep on getting bigger.
And if that’s you, sis, I want you to know that you are doing great, BUT…you’re only doing part of the work.
Fibroids Are Not Just Physical
Fibroids are not just because of your ‘genes’. Neither are they just due to hormonal imbalances. Indeed, oestrogen dominance, poor liver function, underactive thyroid, PMS and bloating are all real and valid, and all form vital pieces of the health puzzle. However, they too are nothing more than symptoms. And even when we treat the symptoms, we are still missing the actual real cause.
Certainly, what I have learned on my own healing journey is that: most fibroid growth didn’t start with you. They started in the wombs of the women who came before you; our ancestors, our foremothers - whose wombs were violated, enslaved, exploited, and put through the most horrendous crimes the perpetrators were never punished for.
Our family…women who were never given a safe space to grieve or to heal.
These women had no words for their trauma… because fighting just to survive left no room for emotional luxury.
Ok…I Know It Sounds Like BS…
When my fibroids were found by “mistake” in 2002, I was relieved. At last I knew why my belly protruded like a permanent pregnancy, no matter how many crunches I did.
Thing is, when the sonographer told me, for her, it was all very matter of fact. There was no urgency. No explanation. No solutions. I was just simply left to get on with it.
Two surgeries later with no relief from my symptoms, I started on the “natural” route, because deep down, I knew losing my womb was not the best thing to do in the long run. I knew there would be life long issues, so instead, I upgraded my eating habits, I detoxed like mad. I did everything I was “supposed” to do. And yet, nothing changed. I still flooded and the fibroids remained in defiance.
Now, if someone back then told me the reason I had fibroids was because I had generational trauma and a wounded womb, I would have said “ What kind of airy-fairy, incense-burning BS is this?”
Because of my background, I felt I had enough knowledge of the human body to fix myself; because after all I was strong, capable and I had a logical mind - a bit like a Vulcan (for all my Star Trek fans!).
I had my sh*t together. I knew my stuff. I thought I knew who I was.
But I didn’t. I had no idea…
The version of me I knew was living day-to-day was shaped by survival instincts. I am a woman who was birthed from a lineage of generational pain.
Locked in a False Identity
Back in 2011, I faced the most difficult truth ever. I was at an event in Los Angeles. The speaker said something I would never forget…he simply said “you must know who you are”. It was at that moment, I realised I was not who I thought I was.
The very question I asked myself was “If I am not me, then who the heck am I?”
I burst into tears.
{and stayed that way for the rest of the day… and on the 8 hour flight home]
The reality is… most of us are not ourselves. We are nothing more than walking coping mechanisms wrapped in a false identity.
You’re probably thinking, well I am who I am, I was “just born that way”; hyper-independent, emotionally detached, anxious, people-pleasing, endlessly giving, never needing. Or perhaps you're thinking “I don’t think so”.
Chances are, that’s not the real you. That’s the armoured you. It's the version of you that’s required to survive in a world that never saw you as sacred [and still doesn’t].
So yes, when someone tells you your womb issues are likely to be born from a spiritual wound, chances are you’ll attack that in some way, you’ll resist it…because that would mean letting go of the version of you that has kept you alive and surviving all these years. And besides, there is no evidence right? So it's hocus pocus…right?
The Legacy of Unhealed Wombs
Dr. Joy DeGruy’s work on Post-Traumatic Slave Syndrome explains this so well. She highlights how trauma didn’t end when slavery did, it just got passed down, hence why so many of us are living with it, unrecognised, unprocessed, unhealed and embedded in our DNA like a parasite. Our ancestors went through unspeakable horrors, and then were just expected to move on.
No counselling. No justice. No healing space.
And survival teaches the body things like:
Don’t feel too deeply.
Don’t trust anyone.
Don’t rest.
Don’t be vulnerable.
Don’t let them see you sweat.
Don’t let them see you bleed.
Now zoom in to today:
You think you’re just “naturally anxious.”
You think you “just attract stress.”
You think your fibroids are “just hereditary.”
Sis, what if I told you that you are carrying more than you were meant to and your womb is tired of being the storage unit?
Why Healing Feels So Hard
Because it is. Period! [Pun intended]
Doing the hard stuff is not inconvenient is it? Healing will require the death of the identity that’s been running your life.
The you that says:
“I don’t need help.”
“I’ll figure it out.”
“It’s not that bad.”
“I’m fine.”
Ahhh…that strong woman persona we all live up to!
That “you” was built to cope. But healing isn’t about coping.
It’s about laying down the armour and releasing the grief.
It's time to face the rage head on.
It's time to let yourself feel. I mean really feel.
And yes, it’s about supporting your body physically and nutritionally.
But without the emotional, spiritual and energetics built in with your healing, you’re doing nothing more than just sweeping the dust under the rug.
The Womb Remembers Even When You Don’t
If the womb is a vessel of creation, chances are it is also a storage of memories. And not just your own memories, but the imprints of every woman in your lineage who never had the space to release what was done to her.
Think about that…
The womb doesn’t forget what the mind was forced to suppress.
So what does that mean for you, right now?
It means your fibroids might be the physical expression of inherited grief, rage, betrayal, or silence, coded into your body long before you ever took your first breath. And yes of course, nutrition and lifestyle play a part too.
This Is What Ancestral Trauma Looks Like in a Fibroid-Prone Woman:
Let’s put the theoretical to one side for a second.
You want to know what ancestral trauma actually looks like in the day-to-day life of a woman with fibroids?
It looks like:
Hyper-productivity that leaves no room for stillness.
The constant cycle of doing, fixing and researching.
Guilt when resting.
A deep fear of slowing down in case it all falls apart.
Distrust of your own body.
Difficulty asking for or receiving help.
An automatic “I’m fine” reflex even when you’re falling apart inside.
Grief with no name.
Anger with no outlet.
Sensitivity that you’ve trained yourself to hide.
You think these are just personality traits. But they’re not. They are trauma adaptations passed down like family heirlooms. And chances are, your womb has been holding all of it.
When Doing More Becomes the New Cage
Here’s where it gets tricky, and why healing feels like chasing a shadow for so many women:
Once we discover natural healing, we think hurrah! I’ve found the answer! So we switch from pharmaceuticals to herbs, from surgery to castor oil packs, from processed foods to organic fruit.
But the energy driving it is still the same.
We’re still doing it from a place of fear, panic, urgency, and the need to control the outcome. We are still in the Western thinking “fix-it” mode, treating the body like it’s a problem to solve. But your body is not a problem.
So until you change the energy behind what you’re doing, it doesn’t matter how “clean” your lifestyle is, because you’re still approaching healing with the same frequency that created them in the first place.
Trauma Isn’t Just What Happened [It’s What Never Got Processed]
Dr. Joy DeGruy taught that trauma isn’t just the event, it’s the absence of healing after the event.
Our ancestors weren’t just traumatised by what they experienced, they were traumatised by the silence that followed; by the expectation to get up the next day and carry on…by the systems that offered no justice and no acknowledgment of the pain.
That silence didn’t just disappear. It got suppressed and passed down through behaviors, beliefs and biology. And now, generations later, we wonder why our wombs are full of growths like an alien invasion. Many of us are emotionally full, but spiritually starved and I am not talking about religion.
The Body As Proof of What the Family Wouldn’t Say
Your body might be expressing what your entire family was too ashamed or afraid to speak out loud.
Maybe you come from a lineage where:
The women kept secrets to protect reputations.
Abuse was swept under the rug.
Emotional expression was labelled weakness.
Boundaries were non-existent.
Religion was used to bypass truth.
Silence was safer than speaking.
In families like these, the body often becomes the only one brave enough to speak.
Fibroids are often the manifestation of what was suppressed…
Unspoken grief.
Uncried tears.
Silenced screams.
The “NO” that never left your grandmother’s lips.
And while you’re busy trying to shrink the fibroids with a plant based diet and herbal teas, the real healing is whispering to you hoping you will feel what they couldn’t. Grieve what they weren’t allowed to. Speak what they silenced.
This is the ONLY way to break the chain.
The Womb is Not a War Zone
There comes a point in every healing journey where you have to ask yourself…
Why the heck is it (the natural healing) not working?
Because maybe… just maybe… your fibroids need more than that. Perhaps they are boundaries that need to be established. Maybe they are barriers created by your body to protect you until it feels safe enough to look within.
You see, you were never meant to heal in survival mode.
Healing vs. Hustling
The wellness industry has taught us to approach natural healing with the same urgency and addiction to progress that capitalism taught us to chase success.
Even when we walk away from Western medicine, we often recreate the same pressure in another form:
Obsessing over parasite cleanses
Jumping from detox to detox
Shaming ourselves for every “wrong” bite of food
Feeling behind if we’re not symptom-free by month three
While parasite cleanses and detoxes are valid, it's more than likely your body is whispering to you…will you slow down long enough to hear me? Because in the end, healing isn’t just about what you do. It’s about what you’re finally willing to feel and let go of.
The 4 Energetic Distortions That Keep Fibroids Alive
After working with women and witnessing countless womb stories, here’s what I’ve seen again and again. These 4 energetic distortions often keep fibroids lodged in place, even when you’re doing all the right things physically:
Over-responsibility
The belief that you must carry it all; everyone’s needs, expectations and emotions. You learned this early. Maybe as a child. Maybe from your mother. Either way, your womb became a storage closet for burdens that were never yours to hold.Emotional suppression
When rage, grief, or heartbreak have no safe place to land, the womb absorbs it. The emotion doesn’t disappear, it just goes underground, hardening into tissue over time.Disconnection from pleasure
So many women with fibroids are disconnected from pleasure, not just sexual pleasure, but sensual, creative and joyful. They’ve learned that feeling good is unsafe, selfish, or unproductive. Play is only for children. But pleasure is medicine. And a numb womb is a congested womb.Fear of being seen
Fibroids often create bloating, weight gain, and distorted body image. But beneath that physical layer is something much deeper: If I’m fully seen, will I be fully safe? The fibroid becomes both a mask and a message.
When these distortions are running in the background, you can juice fast all day long and still have the fibroids grow.
From Fixing to Feeling: The Sacred Reversal
So what now? Where do you go when you realise that what you’re doing isn’t working?
You return to yourself.
You sit with your womb and listen to her story. Ask her what she needs, not just what you want from her. She wants you to listen, not fight her. So slow down. Feel what arises. Cry the tears your ancestors were too exhausted to weep, and allow joy, softness, and support to become part of your protocol.
This is what you call feminine power.
So no, you don’t need another protocol, you need to come home to your body, because your body, your womb is where the truth lives. Now, sis, go seek it.
Take a moment.
Sit quietly. Breathe deeply.
Place your hands on your womb.
Ask yourself this one question:
What am I still holding that isn’t mine?
And: What would it feel like to finally let it go?
You don’t need to know the answers right away. Just asking begins the unravelling.
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